How Do I Get My Child To…?
For most of us parents, this question has popped up in our internal monologue at least once, if not countless times. How do I get her to clean her room? How do I get him to remember to take out the trash? How do I get them to do x, y, or z? And for us homeschoolers who don’t unschool: how do I get them to do their math/writing/science/etc.? It wasn’t until I attended Conscious Discipline’s Summer Institute that it really clicked for me. In a home based on parenting without punishments or rewards, getting them to do something is never the goal. Neither is convincing them to do something. Rather, the goal is to create an environment and relationship with them in which they choose to do x, y, and z. They choose to do the task because it is 1) keeping themselves or someone else safe, 2) helpful, or 3) kind. But how? The Safekeeper Ritual The Safekeeper Ritual from Conscious Discipline is key for our home. It provides our children with...